![]() Give your hunger some time to build up first. Instead of acting confused about what to do, just rest in the state of not being hungry for any fresh goals yet. Just rest in the state of being not hungry yet. There’s no need to evoke confusion.ĭon’t sit down at a table in a restaurant to order if you’re not ready and hungry for your next meal. It’s really a request to pause the flow of life, but if that’s what you want, just ask reality to pause. It’s not a mandatory or essential part of life. Since this pattern is so dreadful in terms of results, I suggest that you stop running it. ![]() So why would you ever want to behave like this with life or reality? Isn’t it always going to be self-defeating? How is this pattern ever really going to help you or anyone else? You wouldn’t want to frustrate a server at a restaurant by acting perpetually confused about what to order, would you? Of course not. It doesn’t know that it actually missed unless you say a firm no and give it some revised suggestions. If you take the bait of a partial match, reality assumes it scored a hit and gave you what you want. And it evaluates the accuracy of its guesses based on your responses (i.e. ![]() If you don’t tell reality what you want, it has to guess. But your confusion may not be letting much of that potential beauty come through, just as your confusion at a restaurant stunts the best efforts of the server and the cook to please you. Reality may try to be polite with you, but behind the scenes, consider that your confusion is actually annoying and frustrating reality. And it can behave as if it’s frustrated with you if you perpetually act confused, much like a server at a restaurant trying to hide their annoyance with an indecisive customer. Reality can be very accommodating when you’re clear about asking for what you want. If you make a stretch request, that’s not on the menu, they may at least try to deliver that too, or they’ll make suggestions based on how close they think they can get. For instance, you can tell a server at a restaurant what you want from the menu, and they will usually bring you exactly that. If you tell another person exactly what you want, the other person will often gladly deliver if your request seems reasonable. This doesn’t mean that reality will always deliver what we want, but it often will. When we bring clarity to our minds first, we can clearly communicate our desires to reality, and reality can see that we’re being honest and respond in kind. Even if reality could read our minds in such situations, it would only read confusion. It can’t read our minds and pull out some deeper level of clarity if our minds are confused. If we keep saying maybe to reality’s offers instead of serving up a firm yes or no, reality gets confused. One reason we sometimes drown in partial matches is that reality is trying to guess at what we want. ![]() With practice, you’ll often find yourself crafting nicely aligned intentions on the first try. Keep tweaking your intention till you feel satisfied with it, like you really feel that it’s yours. Then let it sink in and see how your body, mind, and feelings react to it.ĭoes your intention feel like a true expression of your desires? Does it feel a little off still? Do you like the internal reaction it creates within you? Does some part of you object, and if so, what’s the specific objection, and how could you resolve that? Just declare what you actually want in a sentence or two. Even spoken words can burn themselves into someone's brain and cause pain or confusion.Whenever you get confused, it’s often super helpful to pause and clarify your intentions. That temporary feeling permanently informs that other person's understanding of us and of who we are, and I dare say that this is especially true of hurtful words. But that other person will still remember the words. We feel something, and we write it down, and the other person reads it, and it sticks. It struck me today that emotional words - words written in an emotional state - are a permanent representation of a temporary feeling. And all that's left is a big mess of confusion, pain, misunderstanding and mixed messages. We've argued, we've written love letters, we've written books worth of e-mails. For years we've gone 'round and 'round, over and under, with words, trying to explain each others' position, trying to clarify, trying to express what was happening internally. Recently, though, I realized that a relationship with an important person in my life has been marred - for years - with such a tumble and overabundance of words, that it has actually damaged our understanding of each other. ![]()
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesCategories |